Monthly Archives: April 2012

Saving Private Ryan…nah..just ME!!

ImageThere’s a storm in my house! Its been 3 whole days since G has eaten a decent meal. Somehow in getting her to eat just anything has screwed up the entire routine. Seems like I am forever trying to conjure up a magic concoction that on a good day would have been her “favorite.” Ends in a 2-hour boxing bout between her and me and exactly 5 bites gone down. Its almost time to get back into the kitchen to start on more magic meals..this time it might work…abracadabra…nada, didn’t!
Times like these when I really appreciate that one day when she didn’t fuss or that one meal that she gobbled up completely on her own. If it i ever happening again, I promise to celebrate…yes, make a big deal out of that one meal over and out.

Have heard some strange advices that basic things which children do should not be acknowledged as good behaviour and over appreciated. Don’t make a big deal out of them finishing their task as its what they should normally be
doing…they are not doing you a favour by keeping their toys away or finishing their milk…its no biggie and treat it like that.

Well, what do they know how relieving it really is for a parent when all goes well without screams and tantrums. Today I totally believe I should have celebrated all those times…probably thrown a party and raised a toast to her! It only shows how desperate I am! But do I mind showing G…my desperation…my weakness…and hoping she will be kind enough to do that which pleases me no bounds? Days like these I wouldn’t even mind pleading to her. Oh, will I give her more ways to manipulate me, really? Who cares…? Should parents be only looking out for the child’s over-all development, inculcating values, ethics and what messages they are unconsciously transmitting to the child while their own sanity is on the brink of total annihalation? How come all the great things we want them to absorb take ages and ages of repetition but one day of ignoring your duties can leave scars for life…really?!I think not…

There should be legally “time off” days when I can just not be bothered about doing the “correct” thing for G’s “development” but instead just work on saving what is left of mine.

Damage control can happen tomorrow…but today I am “OFF DUTY!”


Truth and Cake

When is the last time you set out to fail? Fell flat on your face, looked like a fool, tried something risky and FAILED? Have you ever, even once, started something with the sole intention of failing?
 
My guess? No. We’re programmed from birth to succeed. From the cheer of our mothers as we take our first steps, to the straight “A’s” we strive for in school, all the way through our multi-faceted adult lives, we are smiling, studying, and sweating our way towards achievement. Yes, we sometimes fail. But it’s generally not purposeful. We’re so used to the idea of a grading scale that we internally score ourselves on such disparate things as work presentations and parenting skills. And the grade is usually dependent on the same criteria: how do others view our performance? Is my child screaming? Am I poised for a promotion? Are my parents proud…

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